When Rejection becomes a gift

“Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.””
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭31‬:‭6‬ ‭ESV‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/59/deu.31.6.ESV

I pray that God speaks to you specifically and brings clarity into your life wherever there is rejection in the powerful name of Jesus amen!

Up until last year, I was driven by the need for approval from others stuck in a toxic people pleasing cycle that lead me to a very deep painful Godless dark path, a place of hopelessness and depression. Substance abuse amongst many other addictions (playing God, prescription drugs, alcohol, sex, toxic relationships, sugar, caffeine, drama and chaos) that were controlling me like a puppet doll and taking over my life behind closed doors had me anchored down, hindered from God and on a path of destruction furthering me away from the one who created me.

Rejection. Holy Spirit revealed to me that I was rejected in the womb by my mother. It is only by God and his grace that I am still alive today. The last baby was aborted before me creating an unsafe womb. Because of this poor choice, spiritually I experienced trauma in the womb and later it caused a cascade of consequences later in life in all of my relationships. I was rejecting everyone including myself from day one.

Looking in mirrors was a daunting task. All I could perceive were the deceptions the enemy had woven through the trauma I had endured. Without knowledge of Jesus, I defined myself by the events that transpired and by my actions.

I stayed mute for the first five years of my life. My mom was so desperate. She spent thousands of dollars trying to get me to talk by putting me in pageants. I just hated myself and didn’t know why. This behavior and choice to agree with all it the lies had me stuck in a deep cycle of bitterness, anger, unforgiveness, resentment, narcissism, victim mentality and always on defense. I was led by the spirit of rejection. It’s all I knew and it’s all I expected. I expected disappointment. I expected things not to go well and I in fact invited it. if I’m being honest, All of these unresolved issues I got to a breaking point in my substance abuse where suddenly the substances that people places and things were not filling that space anymore to keep me numb and then became suicidal. as these thoughts were racing in my head and nothing was working. I’d rather be dead than be alive. Every time I woke up every morning it was not a life worth living. I came to a desperate place and this is where God found me after everyone had left, I’ve lost everything. God found me, and I gave my life to him in that bathtub and decided not to take my life And I made a vow to serve him for the rest of my life in that moment in 2016.

Things were not perfect and they definitely were not easy, but I finally was not alone in my walk and in my struggles, Jesus was with me even though I didn’t know him by his name, but only God at the time. Suddenly when I accepted God into my life, I endured even more rejection from my earthly father all my friends, even my family. It’s almost like everyone was repelled by me as I was getting sober and finally making the right choices and the spirit of God was in me it seemed as if Everybody was against me so it didn’t make it easy, but God allowed it to make it possible for me to keep fighting or at least to start trying. so the spirit of the Lord allowed me to persevere through the rejection and I did not allow it to push me back into my addiction at least not right away. Trust me my recovery hasn’t been perfect and it hasn’t been pretty but God has used rejection and has turned it in a whole different way now I’m learning Today. how to suffer well. I lost my husband to his addiction. I lost my home all of my things my furniture. I lost a lot of friends. I lost my dignity. I chose my husband and his 20th relapse and trying to save him and failing every time I turned around, and finally God told me to walk away and walk with him and to choose him and to reject everything else around me that is not a part of his will. Apparently it was everything and everyone I surrounded myself with including my husband I’ve been praying for seven years for his deliverance from drug addiction. These choices of staying was not a part of his will. The day that my husband relapsed and overdosed with our children in his possession God moved inside my heart and he changed me from the inside out in that moment. God picked us up and He carried us on his shoulders out of there into safety by the officers. We had a long journey of touch and go in between shelters, but God carried us and provided for all of our needs a year ago. Leaving him and saying yes to Jesus in faith, outward, We were homeless and landed in a couple different battered women shelters, and finally now we have graduated and are now on our own in an apartment safely tucked away. God provided a vehicle paid for brand new and a new job in my career field. God did a miracle and he healed my pain disorder while I decided to pursue a deeper relationship with the Lord by attending a college ministry course while I was in between. I finished and I graduated. While in between God gave me a title and gave me the desire and the strength to start this blog and now wants me to start writing and publishing the content of my life story to bring Hope to the hopeless, healing to the broken hearted and freedom to the addicted,. My kids are healthy happy, stable and secure underneath my roof by God’s leading. Praise report! I’ve remained obedient to the Lord and I’m still sober. I’m alive, better than ever and now Im a graduate of a Christian leadership Institute certification program (College of Athens). I’m back in Veterinary medicine doing what I love assisting the veterinarians and teaching the community about public health.

Rejection is a gift. I welcome rejection because I see that when people reject me, I know that they’re not rejecting me. They’re rejecting the spirit that lives inside of me. Jesus was rejected when he was here on earth. God the son was beaten. God the son was spit on by his own disciples, even turned their heads and looked the other way, even after seeing all the miracles and having their hands in close proximity when he was a man on earth. They rejected him too, Jesus experienced abandonment, grief all of the things he didn’t have to, but he did because he wanted to set an example for us. Jesus was fully God and fully human when he came to earth he died a sinless death and then he rose on the third day and today he lives in spirit, and if you’re In Christ today, he lives inside of you. That means the same spirit that raised Jesus Christ from the dead lives inside of you and God the Father has given Jesus all authority as he sits at the right hand of God, the Father. Pretty awesome stuff. It’s a miracle that today I look at rejection as a gift and I pray that you persevere and endure whatever you’re currently suffering through for Gods word says “you will only suffer for just a little while.” God always will give you a way out. God says, “resist the devil and he will flee.” “no weapon formed against you will prosper in the name of Jesus Christ.” “The old is gone and the new is here.” Rejection truly is a gift. Rejection is God’s way of redirecting you. I finally see now that God uses rejection to steer you in the correct path.

“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭16‬:‭9‬ ‭ESV‬‬
https://bible.com/bible/59/pro.16.9.ESV

I pray that you see Rejection as God sees it today. This life we live is not about us. It’s about him! I pray all of these things in Jesus beautiful and powerful name. Amen

Blessings

Melissa Boss

August 17,2025

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